Sunday, April 26, 2020

My Maladaptive Coping Skills

   I'm sorry that I have not been responding to comments, checking email, etc..  I have some seriously warped maladaptive coping skills.  I tend to shut down and withdraw for the most part when I feel like my headspace is not right.  I fear bringing people down and honestly, my energy level at those points are reserved for doing things like working in the garden, doing things around the house, etc. .  I've been flipping back and forth between trying to be positive and getting projects tackled here at home with a smile on my face and then having horrible sleepless nights or, if I get to sleep, having nightmares that leave me totally shaken.  My dear hubby is trying to get things done, keep me safe, all the while working outside the home and dealing with the anxiety of possibly bringing the virus home to me.  I'm doing all I can to try to NOT put any more pressure on him with my anxiety and fears. :(  

   I am hoping to be able to find a balance once again and get back to a more normal posting schedule.  I do miss interacting with everyone, but at this point I am not even able to read other people's blogs much.  The reality is that I am trying to keep myself as busy as I can around the house and then I wear myself out and spend the next few days in bed.  Jeff and I are both finding escape in watching movies and me making lots of our favortie foods.  I know he appreciates a good meal so I am trying my best to do just that on most nights.

   Be blessed and I will try to get my act together here soon.


  1. Sending virtual ((hugs)) to the two of you.
    I'll be here when you come back. Just take good care of yourself and do whatever you need to get through this.
    BTW,, I've been nightmares as well. You're not alone in this. Stress does weird things to us.
    Cheers, SJ in Vancouver BC

  2. I think we all have our own coping skills, Debbie, which work for us, but, maybe not for others. You do what you need to do. It's fine with me if you don't respond to each comment or read and comment on other blogs. Just let us know that you are OK on a somewhat regular basis as we all care about you and want to check in on you. Take care.

  3. No worries! I feel like the more I stay home and do stuff around here, the more I find to do. I'm more relaxed and less inclined to "push it" with anything. I hope you get relaxed as well and find joy in the small things around your house, as I am during this time. Hopefully, you will get some sleep soon. It makes life so much easier.

  4. Take care of yourself, and do what you need to do for you and your family.
    Hope you feel better. Things always seem worse at night when you can't sleep.

  5. I am right there with you sister. This has been very hard on me and I am trying not to let my mind set affect my arthritis, which it can do under extreme stress. Hang in there.

  6. on the vitacost website, look at Ridgecrest Adrenal Support. This may help you to feel better. Stress is the absolute worst for your condition. I have used it and it has helped. It's on sale now. Take care of yourself. Lots of rest. Barb in PA

  7. Take care and do what you need to stay well. Unplugging can be good at times.

  8. I think we just need to do whatever works at the moment.This is such a strange time. We're watching lots of movies too, just do whatever helps.


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