Thursday, February 2, 2017
Dealing with a lot Right Now
I know that I have been pretty quiet on the blog this week. I have tried to reply to previous posts here on my blog and I have read a few posts from some of my favorite bloggers, but am woefully behind on that also. It's been one of those weeks when I have been absolutely floored by the horrid behavior of some people in our country with their rioting, hate speech and utter disrespect for a fallen hero who lost his life trying to make the world a safer place. People that I have loved and respected for years are turning into very bitter and nasty beings that I no longer recognize. We also have dear friends who have lost loved ones and/or are going through heartbreaking situations at the moment and it has been all I can do to just be there for them. It's been a rough week.
My stress levels went through the roof on Monday after a rather hurtful conversation with someone that I consider family. It's sad when someone attacks someone that has been there for them for years when all I did was express sorrow, hurt and compassion for those (myself included) that had lost friends and loved ones in a horrible accident that keeps being replayed year after year on TV and the rest of the media as well. Her response was that we need to remember and honor them and that people under the age of 31 needed to "see it for themselves". I agree that we need to honor these people but none of us needs to see their painful and tragic deaths played out again and again. That is not honoring them, that is exploiting them for ratings. She then went on a tirade against me. I had to unfollow this person, whom I love, on facebook because I just can't deal with the negativity and the lack of compassion shown for others. This is not the first time she has done something like this and I just can't deal with her right now. I am hoping that this will help lower my stress levels again.
One of my friends has been dealing with the whole process of watching her father slip away and finally go to heaven this week. Another friend lost her father-in-law this week. My heart aches for them. Other friends have gotten horrible news on the health of their loved ones. And another friend is dealing with the ultimate betrayal that a woman can experience. I have tried to be there for all of them. I am a person that takes others pain and worry onto myself. I have always been that way and it is something that as painful as it is, I do not want to change about myself because it is part of what makes me "me".
On a more positive note though, I was greatly relieved and so thankful for God's hand in protecting my son Josh. Josh has been transferred to another flight line on the air base that he works on and is trying out for an elite team. One of his higher ups did not realize that he had been transferred and just told him today when he found out that he had just put him on the list to deploy again with some of his last team but since he transferred and might become a member of the elite team, he would have to take him off that list now and Josh will not be deploying. Josh asked where he would have been deployed to and the guy got really quiet and then said he could not tell him. That is military speak for dangerous hostile zone. Josh's guess is Afghanistan. Josh has served 2 deployments in the Middle East already and I don't want him deployed there ever again, especially now! One of my friends lost her son, who I also knew, in Afghanistan during some heavy fighting where he died saving the lives of the rest of his platoon. Jake is one of many fallen heroes that deserve our honor and respect and his family and friends will forever miss him. I am thankful that for now at least, my son will not be going to that same part of the world facing hostile forces. I don't know if I would ever recover if something happened to any of my children or grandchildren.
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You've got a lot on your plate, Debbie. Just switch the outside world off, if you can. That's wonderful news that your son won't be deployed. You mothers of soldiers deserve your own medals of courage. God bless and take care!ReplyDelete
Thank you Jane and I am trying to do just that. :)Delete
I agree, playing out misery on the television over and over again just reopens old wounds. My stepson is in the Canadian Armed Forces, he has a year left in his contract. We have fingers crossed he won't be deployed as well since there seems so much conflict in the world right now, Canada tends to do peacekeeping so still ends up in major conflict zones.ReplyDelete
Please tell you son thank you for me for his service in your military. Praying that he will be able to stay out of those conflict zones also. ((((HUGS))))Delete
I pray your son doesn't ever get sent there again! And thank him for his service please! I appreciate it greatly. There is a lot of sadness around you but someday there will be more joy. Just keep up the hope. And as far as the people who are being mean to you...I think the devil is really working overtime in this Biblical time of life! Look at this objectively and know it is the devil tempting them and it will be easier for you to pray and fight this spiritual battle. AndreaReplyDelete
Thank you Andrea, we are praying the same thing. You are right, the devil is working overtime right now. It's sad to see even pastors that I know getting caught up in it and becoming abusive and mean. That really saddens me because the world is watching and it just turns people away from Christ.Delete
Oh I know...even in my religion people in authority are causing problems. Jesus said to beware of wolves in sheep's clothing! Jesus knew (of course, He being God) that Judas would betray him but he kept him as an apostle to show that even in the ranks there is dissent. (my opinion). AndreaDelete
I never thought of it that way before Andrea. :)Delete
Good Morning, Debbie,ReplyDelete
I extend my sympathy to you and all you are enduring. I offer a promise from the Lord to you,
"Then maidens will dance and be glad, young men and old as well. I will turn their mourning into gladness; I will give them comfort and joy instead of sorrow," declares the Lord." - Jeremiah 31:13
Thank you Mrs. B. I love that verse and promise from the Lord. Be blessed!Delete
We've only met here on this wonderful blog you've created. But I've got you on my prayer list. And,as a dear friend and mentor often says to me 'I've bumped you up to the top of the list'.ReplyDelete
Take good care of yourself. SJ
Thank you SJ...you are so sweet my friend. :)Delete
So glad your son is not being deployed. Something good in all the trials and tribulations that seem to be bombarding you. They say God never gives us more than we can bear-- I've joked during difficult times that he must really think I'm a strong woman-- he apparently thinks you're a strong woman. Love your loyal friends and be there for them-- true friends will be there for you when you need them. Hope you have a calm weekend.ReplyDelete
Thank you Delorise, you are very kind. I hope you have a calm weekend as well. :)Delete
I hope your son will continue to not be deployed. I will be keeping him and your family in my prayers. My son is in the Air Force and stationed overseas right now. Several years ago he was deployed in a dangerous area and it was such a worry-filled time for me and my husband.ReplyDelete
I am feeling so uneasy and worried about him these past few weeks with all that is going on in the world right now. It seems that every day instability increases in yet another location. I am finding it so difficult to settle my mind at night when it is time to sleep.
(((((HUGS))))) Susie....praying for your son. I totally understand your fear. I pray that somehow our country can get it together here because we are destroying ourselves from within and will be easy targets for our enemies. Be blessed and thank you for your prayers too.Delete
Thinking of you. :) HugsReplyDelete
Thank you Chrissy. I hope you get some good rest and kick that bug you caught. Be blessed.Delete
To be there for others, when you are feeling low yourself, is a testament to your character. No wonder your son has inherited such traits and is being recognised for his abilities. I understand your joy that Josh wont be deployed. Our son is looking like he will be sent on another round to that part of the world. I too hope he doesnt have to go again.ReplyDelete
Young Jake was a gallant man who died with honour. I hope his family are managing their grief. I dont think we ever get over it. Try and find sometime for yourself and give yourself a chance to be well.
Oh Jane, I am so sorry to hear that. My prayers are with your son and with you too. Thank you for your kind words about Jake. He is forever missed by his family and friends alike. He really was an amazing man. Be blessed my friend.Delete
With all that is going on I hope you are able to sustain yourself. Take time and take care of you as well so you can continue to be strong for those that need you. You are a truly wonderful person. Take care and God bless.ReplyDelete
Thank you for your kind words. I have been blessed with good friends and family that are there for me also. :)Delete
You have such a big heart Debbie, and it is so hard to see the weight of the problems around you. Yet we can turn our burdens to the Lord and trust in Him to carry us in the times when we can't walk. I think of the little poem, Footprints in the Sand. The Lord knows just what you're dealing with, and He wants to carry you through this time of difficulty and shower you with His love so that you in turn can pass on this love to others. Through Christ, we can do all things! His strength becomes our own! In our weakness, we are made strong in HIM. I pray your heart is encouraged to keep loving, keep praying, and letting the light of Jesus love others through you, you are making a powerful difference in the world around you! Hugs to you today :)ReplyDelete
I love that poem. Thank you for reminding me about it. :) Hoping you did not get hit too hard with the latest snowstorm up your way...it looked bad!Delete
Debbie, I am a bit behind with my reading of blogs, but I am sorry to hear that you are going through another stressful period in your life. (((HUGS)))ReplyDelete
Thank you Bless...it is nothing compared to all you have gone through my friend. I am so happy for you being healthy again!Delete