A few months ago I saw something on Facebook that really made me sad for the author. She was talking about all the "bad relationships" that she did not want to be a part of and one of the things she listed as being bad was being a couple that could finish each other's sentences. That stopped me in my tracks and made me think that a. the author is either really young so has no clue about long lasting love or b.the author just wants that beginning of a relationship "thrill ride" feeling and is never in a relationship long enough to find out how truly wonderful it is to have that deep connection with someone to be able to finish each other's sentences.
My husband and I have been together since the day after Thanksgiving in 1983. We got married in March of 1985. That means that we have been a couple for 33 years now. No one knows me as well as he does or him I. We are each other's best friend, confidant, biggest cheerleader and the one person in this world that we know will be there for each other no matter what. Our connection in very deep and strong. We can look at something and both of us think the exact thing with the exact wording when we speak that thought out loud. We can look at each other across a room and know that the other one is thinking. This has come in handy when one of us is hurting or ill. No words have to be spoken, but we know what each other needs at that moment. As I have shared before, I have both Chronic Fatigue Syndrome and Fibromyalgia and the "brain fog" that comes with both of those. There are times when I am in the middle of a sentence and I can't find the word I want to say or I know it but it does not make the connection from my brain to my mouth. My husband knows how frustrating this is for me and he finishes my sentence and bridges that gap for me. He goes with me to most of my doctor's appointments because I can't remember simple things like what supplements and the dosages I take. I really do need to write those things down and keep a copy of them in my wallet.
My husband, like a lot of men, has trouble putting into words what he is feeling at times, especially when he is dealing with something that is hurting him deeply. I help him find the words to express himself so that he can get it all out. My doing this helps him cope with it better so it is not building up inside and making him feel even worse than he already is. It has helped him be able to see patterns of behavior going way back to his childhood that are hurtful and not healthy at all and has helped him deal with some very traumatic events in his life.
Being able to finish each other's sentences is a good and positive thing. It comes from years of love, trust and truly paying attention to what is important to the other person. It shows a deep and strong bond between people. Love matures over time and goes through different stages. I hope that the author of the post I read that "sparked" this post one day finds herself in a deep and mature relationships where she and the one she loves can finish each other's sentences.