Friday, February 15, 2019

Frugal Food Lately 2/15/19


   I spaced out on keeping a record of my frugal doings this week so I thought I would do a Frugal Foods Lately post of the things we have been eating here at home over the past 3 weeks or so  instead.  Enjoy!!!

Apples and Cheddar Cheese

Creamy Venison Casserole

Ham and Veggie Chowder

Brats and Potato Hash

Homemade Chili

Broccoli/Cauliflower and Cheese Soup

Chicken, Tomato and Pesto Pasta

Chicken Noodle Soup

Another Snacky Dinner

Teriyaki Venison Meatloaf and Rice

    Some of the other homemade meals that I did not get pictures of were Split Pea Soup with Ham, Grilled Cheese Sandwiches, Crab and Cream Cheese Wontons, Pizza, and a few other things that I cannot think of at the moment.  I always try to cook enough for leftovers for a few days also.  We love leftovers and on days when we are either busy or I am not feeling well, they sure come in handy!  

   Though not as frugal, I am not making homemade meals this weekend when we have our oldest grandsons spend the night on Saturday and hopefully have Jaysn, Rachel and Steven join us for sledding followed by dinner.  I took the easy way out and bought 3 frozen pizzas at less than $4 each and  
some marked down Valentine's Day cookies for .98 a package.  Breakfast will be strawberry yogurt that I got on sale since they love yogurt along with Little Cuties mandarin oranges.  I'm still thinking I am getting off pretty frugally. ;)

Tuesday, February 5, 2019

Low Spend Month to Save More Money


   I need to save more money and do it rather quickly.  The recent government shutdown, with a possible second one in the very near future got me to thinking about how we definitely need an emergency fund so that we are covered in case of job loss, prolonged illness on Jeff's part (his job brings in all our income) or any other emergency that we might need funds for that we could quickly get our hands on without having to go into further debt.  We do try to put money away on a regular basis, but I want to be able to "up" that amount.   I went over various ideas in my head but kept coming back to one in particular...

   I have seen people doing "no spend" months where they only spend money on things like housing, food at home, utilities, etc..  I would love to be able to do something like that, but Jeff has committed to his bowling league for the rest of the season, so we cannot drop that.  Also, I do not want him to.  He needs to have a fun outlet and something to look forward to each week.  He works so hard for all of us, takes great care of me and works at a job that can be especially difficult due to the weather this time of year.  He also gave up the sport he loves for year while we raised our kids and I am happy to see him be able to be on a league again. 😊  I've decided instead to do a "low spend" challenge for the rest of this month.

   My parameters for this low spend month are as follows:

1. Jeff will continue to bowl in his league.
2. I will not be shopping that the thrift stores for the rest of the month (ok, this is going to be a really tough one for me but I am determined).
3. No eating out or ordering in food from the tavern. All meals will be eaten at home, at family gatherings or packed and taken with us if we go somewhere.  The exception will be if we use a gift card that covers all the cost of the meal and tip.
4. All meals will be created around what we have in the pantry, refrigerator and freezer.  I can buy fresh produce, dairy products and anything else that we might use up on a regular basis like the hot cocoa mix that Jeff uses in his coffee.
5. I also plan on trying some new recipes and also doing a once a week soup night like I used to.  This has saved us so much money in the past.  I just made a large pot of homemade chicken noodle soup using only half of a large chicken breast and bulked it up with lots of veggies and noodles.  I currently have a ham bone that I thawed out from our Thanksgiving dinner that will go into a large crockpot of homemade split pea soup that I will be making tomorrow.  Most of that will be frozen for future meals which is a wonderful thing to have on hand when I don't feel like cooking.
6. We will cut down on trips out of town with my car.  Jeff has to go to work 5 times a week and we usually use my car twice a week to go to appointments, shopping or to see the kids.  We will combine my twice a month appointments with any needed shopping.  That should limit our trips in my car to once a week on average instead of twice a week.
7. We will continue to make use of the library, YouTube and Netflix to watch movies and different TV shows.  I am also borrowing more books on frugal living, health related issues, and some "just for fun" reading as well.
8. Even though we are in a cold snap weather wise right now, I will keep the heat turned down at night and during the day when Jeff is sleeping.  I'll turn it up when he is awake though since he likes it warmer than I do.  I can always snuggle under blankets during the day and add another one to the bed at night.  I prefer it cooler anyway. I also turn the heat down when he leaves for work so that I can have a cooler bedroom to sleep in at night.
9. I need to be more diligent on working my points programs.  I have been neglecting them lately due to me not wanting to be online much due to all the political BS and some abhorrent laws that have been passed in a few states lately that absolutely disgust me and break my heart. It has been all over social media and I just have not been able to deal with it.  It gives me nightmares and makes my anxiety and depression get so much worse.
10. Lastly, I hope to list some things online that we are not using any more and get them sold.  That money will go into our emergency fund as well.

   So that is my plan for the rest of this month and we will see how it goes.  I may do a modified version of this every month limiting myself to one trip to the thrift stores a month. or every other month.  I do need to get that money saved as well as putting more money towards our debt.  I am getting this feeling lately like this is super important to do and I am going to go with what my gut tells me.


Frugal Friday Wrap Up 1/26-2/1 2019

~We used a $25 Walmart gift card I earned through Swagbucks to buy a huge bag of cat food, hamburger and hot dog buns, feminine products, a cucumber, cereal and a huge bag of potato chips.
~We also used a $20 customer loyalty reward card to buy 2 shirts for me (one was Chico's brand), a Helly Hanson rain jacket for Jeff, a vintage glass refrigerator food container (this will go in my cousin's store), and the movie "Heat" on dvd.
~Lunch was eaten out at Jack in the Box where we ordered the special and 2 sides and had water to drink.  It came out to just a hair over $10.
~Jeff and I stopped in to visit Jaysn and Steven (Rachel was at work) on our way home.  Steven was thrilled to see us and we were entertained by his antics.
~We watched "Escape to the Country" on YouTube at night.  We love that show!
~Dinner was leftovers and ice cream.   Yum!
~The weather was not that great so we stayed home and got some things done around the house.
~I ran my points programs
~Jeff worked on organizing the front bedroom which also houses our pantry.  This way we know what we have and can make meals based on what needs to be used up soon.
~I pulled a family sized pack on Bratwurst out of the freezer.  We will have some tonight and the rest will be used for future meals.
~Soaked beans so I can cook them up on Monday in the slow cooker.
~Made a menu plan with Jeff and set out some of the things we need in a large bowl so that I don't have to go searching for them later.
~We watched a movie we borrowed from the library.
~I was in need of some "retail therapy" today so we went to Goodwill.  Every Monday is Senior discount day of 20% off your total purchase and the new color of the week tags just changed on Sunday.  I was on the hunt for a Mother of the Groom dress for Josh and Lauren's outdoor Fall wedding.  Josh really wanted me to wear something in Navy Blue so that is what I was searching for and I happened upon "the dress" today.  It is a Navy Blue, long sleeved and full length dress that is warm, flows beautifully, does not need ironing (bonus) and was brand new with tags!  It was priced at Goodwill for  $7.99 minus my 20% discount!!!  We also found a cd Jeff wanted, 2 shirts for him (one was the color tag of the day so he got that one at half off) and I also found a buttery soft shirt and a Lia Sophia gorgeous bracelet that was also brand new.  We got everything for $31.08.  Happy Camper here!
~Walmart had my prescription ready.  It only costs us $9 after insurance.
~I threw the beans I had soaked into the crockpot and let them cook away!  I then turned them into a nice meatless chili.  Jeff is not a fan of chili, but I am so I will freeze a bunch of it.
~I cooled the chili off on the screened in back porch since it was 30F out there before putting it into the refrigerator.
~My sweet friend Julie crocheted a prayer shawl for me and it is so pretty.  She and I both have health struggles and she makes these shawls as part of her church ministry.  She asked me what colors I liked and took it from there.  The shawl is so very special because not only did she make it, but she prayed over it for me as she worked on it.
~I have compiled several binders over the years with Laine's Letters, and tips, hints and frugal recipes that other friends have shared.  I am going back through those binders and getting myself more motivated to save more money.
~I was in a huge fibro flare so Jeff made dinner.  He cooked up the ground venison I had got out to thaw and made sloppy joes with a canned sauce.  He was not happy with the results and asked me why it did not taste as good as mine.  I told him it is because I make a homemade sauce and add peppers to it.  The can is ok in a pinch though.
~One of the things that I really enjoy is watching documentaries.  I have found a lot of different ones on both YouTube and Netflix that keep me entertained for hours.  This is a great thing for me to watch when I am not feeling well and can't concentrate enough to read.  I just cuddle up in my recliner, usually with at least one cat on my lap, and watch.  This helps take my mind off the pain and believe me, it is much needed!
~I put in requests for a lot of books from the library and also picked up some they had on hold for me there.
~There was a free magazine offer that I took advantage of.  I get these for our local library also.
~I uploaded coupons onto my Safeway card so they are there when I need them.
~Jeff and I watched "Hotel Transylvania 3" on Netflix.
~Rachel and Steven came up to show off Steven's "big boy" haircut to G-Pa.
~I froze 2 containers of the leftover chili soup for future meals.
~Comfort food was much needed so I made homemade broccoli, cauliflower and sharp cheddar cheese soup.
~Jeff hurt his back at work last night when he fell so he used the hot tub to loosen up his muscles.
~We are headed into some bitter cold weather so I got all the throws washed today so they are ready to cuddle up under for anyone that may come by.
~I was feeling nostalgic so I found the movie "With Six You Get Eggroll" on Youtube and streamed it on my TV.  I used to have it on VHS but do not have it on dvd yet. :)  Love me a good movie that brings back some wonderful memories!

Wednesday, January 30, 2019

Not Gonna Lie...



Yesterday was a horrible day pain and energy wise and I found myself either in my recliner or in bed.  I had a moment that really scared me when I realized that days like these are ones that find people totally giving up and spiraling into a deep depression only to try to find a quick way out. 😪😢  That realization was quickly met with "but there are better days ahead" in my mind and that I could not allow my mind to go to that dark place again...

   Today I woke up in pain (as usual), but my outlook was much better.  That is what I mean about there are better days ahead.  With this and other chronic illnesses, your health and energy levels, as well as your mental health, can change minute by minute.  You have to accept that there are going to be horrible days but also know that things can and will get better on other days.  It's like riding a rollercoaster for the first time and not knowing exactly what is ahead but also knowing there will be highs and lows and you just have to go with the ride and try to find enjoyment in it even though there are times when you are scared and want off!

   Yesterday I was not able to get anything done around the house, but today I can do a few things as long as I take breaks in between.  There is bread to be made (my KitchenAid does the mixing and kneading for me...I love that thing) and I also need to take a quick trip down to the library to drop off some things that are due today.  Speaking of which, I had better go and jump in the shower and get myself presentable so I can make it down there before they close.  Be blessed all!

Friday, January 25, 2019

Thank You and an Update

   This is a follow up to my post earlier today.  First of all, I want to thank Cheryl, Becky, Kathy and Billie Jo who all left me great comments and suggestions at the time of this update post.  Jeff and I are not able to get away for a few nights right now, but we are taking this weekend for ourselves and have made some other changes and plans as well.

   As most of you who have been reading my blog know, my hubby is my hero, safe place and my "safe harbor" in life's many storms.  When he woke up this afternoon after having a busy overnight work shift, he took me into his arms and just held me and asked me how I was doing and listened while I told him about how I was feeling about my friend's death and about feeling overwhelmed and guilty for not being able to be there for Rachel today. I want to make it abundantly clear that Rachel did nothing to make me feel this way, it is all my own feelings of guilt.

   We had a long talk after he got his coffee and I found myself in his arms once again.  This led to a very jealous Doofy cat, but I digress. Doofy does not like having to share me with anyone.😉  Anyway, we talked about how I feel like the worst Mother /Grammie in the world when I am not able to be there for my kids and grandkids and help them out or have to cancel out on things.  I feel like many people see me as a total flake and unreliable because they don't understand that I have no control over what my body decides to do at any given moment.  I try my best to rest as needed, but my sleep quality sucks and I never know if and when I will be able to sleep.  If I can't get to sleep until after 3 a.m. (which seems to be the norm for me), then having to get up early to help someone or be somewhere is very difficult for me, especially since the quality of my sleep is also not normal and I lack the level of deep sleep and even REM sleep that is needed to heal and refresh your body and mind.  Once in awhile, I can manage it, but to do so on a regular basis is nearly impossible without me feeling totally overwhelmed.  Jeff and I realized that with my counseling going on and all that is bringing up, that I am not in a position where I can take anything else on and that I need to be able to use my energy to process through things and to heal from my past.  I need to really pull back from all but a few outside the home commitments at this time.

   My amazing and protective hubby had a long talk with Jaysn and Rachel to let them know what is going on and why I have had to cancel out so much even though I want to spend as much time as I can with our little Steven.  They were so supportive and understood why I needed this time for me.  I'm know that my other kids will be/are just as supportive and that it was my own feelings of guilt for not being able to be the person that I want and used to be for all of them that was tearing me apart inside.

   Jeff and I also made some plans for our home to get it back into order and easier to manage.  We will be tackling these projects doing a little at a time so that I do not get overwhelmed and he does not get worn out.  As for this weekend...we are playing that by ear and seeing how I am doing.  Saturday we will stay at home and rest and if I am up to it, then we will head up to the lake for a bit on Sunday and if weather and my body  allows, bundle up and walk on the boardwalk out over the lake.  We shall see....

Feeling Lost and Like I Have Let Everyone Down

   I know that on Fridays I try to post a Frugal Friday Wrap Up post, but today this is just not going to happen.  I just don't have it in me at the moment to do it.  Last night things came to a head and I broke down...
   I had a feeling all day yesterday that someone I cared about had passed away.  I checked the obituaries and there was nothing there.  I still could not shake the feeling.  Then, last night shortly before 9 p.m. I got a message via facebook private messenger that an old boyfriend, who I had remained friends with, and who was one of the sweetest and kindest people around had passed away the day before.  His brother, who was also a good friend and who was married to one of my best friends from college, had passed away earlier in August.  My heart absolutely broke for the entire family.  I got ahold of my friend Linda to let her know how sorry I was for the loss of her BIL and that they were all in my prayers.  I then got ahold of Rachel to let her know that I would not be able to watch Steven today because I was not coping well and was going into a major Fibro flare.  I felt awful having to tell her that because I love spending time with Steven, but I knew that I would not sleep well and would be in horrible pain today.  I was right.

   I had also called my husband, who was at bowling league, and left him a message.  He called me back later and I filled him in on what was going on.  He was so understanding and supportive because he knows how deeply I love my friends and how much this affects me.  Both Greg and Jeff, the brothers who passed within months of each other, are around Jeff and my age.  In fact, my Jeff is the same age as my friend Jeff that just passed away.  That hit my heart hard because I cannot imagine not having my Jeff in my life.  My heart aches for his wife and family.

   Here is where the guilt comes in.  I was totally overwhelmed with the news of my friend's death and went into "shut down mode".  I could not cope with anything more at the moment and could not even answer simple questions or commit to anything, even to my family.  I had to cancel out on watching Steven at the last moment and put off making any sort of commitment even about what food I was bringing to a family party in a few weeks.  I also could not commit to having my older grandsons come and spend the night with us next month since plans have changed (they are going skiing and should have lots of fun) and they will not be with us this weekend as planned. I know that I am letting everyone down and I feel horrible about it.

   Here is the thing about this horrible, life altering illness called robs you of so much and changes your life forever.  Many of us with it are super sensitive people, also known as empaths.  We feel other people's emotional pain and take it upon ourselves.  I have always been this way ever since I was a child.  We love our friends and family deeply, which is a blessing is so many ways, but can also lead to deep hurt, and in our cases, physical and emotional pain as we grieve for those we love and care for.  That leaves us unable to be there for others as we process our own grief and the physical pain that intensifies in situations like this.  That leaves us feeling guilty for not being able to be there for others and also for feeling such intense pain when we know that those people we love that have lost their family member are going through one of the worst times of their lives and wanting to be there for them too.

   I feel totally lost and like I have let everyone down.  I'm not sure how to deal with all of this.  I just want to run away with my husband for the weekend and be alone in a cabin in the woods with no communication or commitment to or from the outside world.  I want to cuddle up next to him with a fire going in a fireplace and doze off as I feel safe and protected in his strong arms.  I don't want to have to pay attention to time, have the responsibilities of daily life, or even having to take care of my much loved fur babies.  I want to walk in the woods and take in the beauty and stillness therein and smell the calming and earthy aroma of the forest itself.  It is an impossible dream at the moment financially or time wise, but it is what I long for.  I want the quiet, the stillness, the coziness and that wonderful feeling of being wrapped up in our own little world with my husband.  

   I know it may sound "selfish", but that is what I feel that both he and I need at the moment.  Losing my friend has made me even more aware of how precious my husband is to me and that I need to appreciate every moment I have with him.  I want to just be able to focus my energy and time on him for a weekend, no matter how much I may be hurting physically and emotionally.  I would truly be lost without him.






Monday, January 14, 2019

Sometimes Things Get Worse Before They Get Better

   Sometimes life is going along and you think you are doing better but then things get worse for awhile.  This is so true when you are going through counseling.  I really thought that I was doing better and even felt more positive and then WHAM...

   My anxiety, OCD and depression hit me head on again and hard this past week.  The positive though is that I was able to get it under control and work my way through the multiple panic attacks, so that is progress.  I could not figure out why I was having nightmares along with all of the above yet again.  I have been spending time filling my "love tank" with my grandkids and my kids who live near us.  I have actually been able to go on a few short walks with the baby since the weather had been Spring like until it turned again within the past few days.  We have run into friends that I love and adore and shared hugs with them.  Our Chris and Heather got moved into their new home and had us over for why am I having so much trouble again???

   I talked to my counselor today and she gave me the is because I am facing things that I have not wanted to deal with for so long and it is bringing up lots of anxiety.  She said it was a good thing though because that means I am actually doing the work that needs to be done to learn to cope with my past and move on from it.  For so long I have just "stuffed" things away and put on a smiling and strong front.  I do have some great coping skills in some areas, but there are other areas where I still need to work on.  

   Because of this, my energy is still drained and it makes it hard to concentrate on things like blogging, reading other friends' blogs, and even spending time with friends in person.  My "sensory overload" seems to be on hyperspeed right now so being around a lot of people, too much noise, bright lights and trying to form thoughts and transfer them to paper or reply or even do much reading is proving to be very difficult.  This in turn makes my anxiety ramp up and that makes my Fibromyalgia flares even worse.  

   I trust that in time, the counseling will help me cope with not only my illness, but also with things in my past that research shows has a strong correlation to WHY I may have Fibromyalgia.  I've had symptoms since I was a kid, so this goes way back before we were able to connect the dots to figure out what was going on.  Counseling will not "cure" my Fibromyalgia, but it will help me deal with things in my life and also help me accept and maybe even love who I am now.