Tuesday, June 7, 2016

Answered Prayer, Alienation and the Ant Invasion

  Thank you to everyone who sent us good thoughts and prayers.  After a long and worrisome weekend, our loved one that was in the hospital is home.  We had gotten a call from them on Saturday and after they told me what was going on I insisted we take them in to be seen.  I am so glad we did. They had been feeling badly for 2 weeks and it was getting worse.  We were lucky, we got them in just in time.

  While all this was going on, anger and resentment from another family member towards us just got worse.  It did bring some things to the surface though and we have finally realized that this situation with this certain family member cannot be resolved because they will never let go of their anger, fear, resentment and jealousy and instead of facing their own demons, they instead demonize me.  I have not been their only target, but they have not been able to totally destroy my relationship with others in the family as they have with someone else.  For years I, and my husband, have been lied about.  They went after our marriage, our parents, our kids and and now even our grandkids.  The stress of it all took a huge toll on our marriage and on my health.  The situation became so toxic that we almost walked away from it all, but given certain circumstances, that would have meant not being able to have contact with other family members who have been deeply hurt by this whole mess also.  We could not do that.  We limit contact with the source of the issue as much as possible and are kind when we see them, but that is NEVER returned.  Even with a health crisis of a loved one, this person could not stand to even be in the same room as us and was very angry at us that we were the ones who got our mutual loved one help.  Things will be getting worse because we still have more health crises that we are dealing with in the family and there will have to be some changes made for the health and safety of our loved ones.  I'm sure that most families have some kind of dysfunction in them....our just seems to be on the "crazy soap operas" scale of things.

    After dealing with the nastiness and pettiness of that person, we then had to deal with an actual ant invasion in our home later last night.  My husband was getting ready to go to work and saw a few ants on the kitchen counter.  Then he looked down on the floor and it was "moving".  YUCK!  Ants everywhere and they were spreading out to the rest of the house.  We did not have any bug spray so we quickly called our friends/hanai family next door and Shannon came to our rescue.  She brought over bug bombs and got me and the fur babies out of the house since I and our cat are especially sensitive to chemicals.  She, bless her heart, set off the foggers for us since Jeff had to leave for work and then she came back over to open up the house and air it out for me since I could not go in it until it was completely aired out.  I tell you, this woman went above and beyond for us and we love her dearly and feel so blessed to have her in our lives.

   Today I am spending the day washing all the towels, napkins, etc. that were affected by the bug bombs/foggers and washing down surfaces.  My laundry line is full at the moment and round two of the laundry will be going out there as soon as the first 3 loads are dried.  I also have bread going in the breadmaker and need to get out in the gardens and harvest some lettuce and strawberries.  It is going to be in the low 90's today, but will start a cooling trend tomorrow.  Thank you Jesus!

   Anyway, I may be sporadic in my blog posts for awhile again as we deal with all the things that are going on and trying to get answers and help for our loved ones and having to deal with the added stress of the conflict within the family.  Thank you again for your prayers and good thoughts.  We are just at the beginning of a long road filled with sinkholes I fear.

 

 

10 comments:

  1. I'm happy to hear your loved one is home from the hospital. Thank God for your intervention. I am sorry to hear of the trouble within your family. Keeping you in my prayers. Glad to hear the ant problem was resolved ~ pesky little buggers! Take it easy and take care of yourself. Stress always wears you down.
    Laurie

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    1. Thank you so much Laurie. :) I'm happily puttering around the house and enjoying a day at home. One of my sons called earlier and we had a nice visit. :)

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  2. It is very difficult dealing with loved ones health issues and even harder dealing with unpleasant people, but the combination is incredibly hard. It sounds therefore as though you are dealing with it absolutely as best as you can given all the difficulties you have. I am so sorry about this for you. It is good that you have kind and supportive friends. I hope that all will be as OK as it can be. xx

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    1. Thanks Amy and you are right, it is hard but I do have wonderful friends and lots of family that IS supportive. I'm just thankful that things were caught in time for our dear one and that we got to spend so much time visiting with them while they were at the hospital. :) We have not been able to spend that much time together in years and it was fun to giggle and hear stories about their childhood.

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  3. I have one of those families where a few aunts and cousins like drama. Thankfully my mother keep my sister and me away from that when we were growing up. I never realized how bad it was until I was an adult. It is sad, but I cringe when I see a certain cousin shows up on caller ID. I let her go on and don't get drawn into the drama. It is unforunate that some people will never change. I am glad that your family member is doing better. As for the ants... ugh... thanks goodness for wonderful neighbors!

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    1. I'm sorry you have to deal with drama queens Wendi...maybe don't answer the phone when that number pops up and just let them leave a message?

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  4. Hope everything eases up and becomes better for you. Will continue to keep you in my thoughts. (((HUGS)))

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    1. Thank you...praying for you too!

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  5. Debbie, I hope life settles for you now. Sending hugs. Mimi xxx

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    1. Thank you so much Mimi...I do appreciate it. :)

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