tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2283658887503348180.post4787453860772159515..comments2024-03-16T10:18:51.784-07:00Comments on The Next Chapter In My Life: Normal is just a Setting on the DryerDebbiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16449564619872452771noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2283658887503348180.post-57394273799515164932017-11-19T01:38:34.334-08:002017-11-19T01:38:34.334-08:00A very thought provoking post, Debbie. There is n...A very thought provoking post, Debbie. There is no standard, one-size-fits-all normal, I think. Just as many different normals as there are individuals. The important thing is accepting our own normal, even if it is different than the others' normal.Blesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16369267622517848850noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2283658887503348180.post-74257387116646685652017-11-15T10:55:48.806-08:002017-11-15T10:55:48.806-08:00Kim, your response made me giggle with your remark...Kim, your response made me giggle with your remark about hating to learn patience. ;) I'm right there with you on that one! :)Debbiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16449564619872452771noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2283658887503348180.post-7692562739508402132017-11-15T10:06:58.418-08:002017-11-15T10:06:58.418-08:00Hey Deb, great post. We all have trials and if yo...Hey Deb, great post. We all have trials and if you think someone has a perfect life think again. Life is hard it teaches us to become more Christ like, when we choose to do what is right rather than what we really want to do. It teaches us patience. Boy do I hate learning about patience.Out My windowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13456481267171643227noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2283658887503348180.post-61790157550646941722017-11-15T09:38:42.402-08:002017-11-15T09:38:42.402-08:00HI Becky, thank you for sharing more of your own p...HI Becky, thank you for sharing more of your own personal story here. You and your husband amaze me with how loving, caring and giving of yourselves you are to sacrifice so much to try and give others the best chance at happiness and the feeling of security and belonging that you can. I feel for you because I know that everyone has to make their own choices in life and in some cases, no matter how much love and time you pour into some people's lives, the damage done earlier in life due to choices that their biological parents made, abuse suffered in childhood, mental health issues, drug or alcohol abuse and/or just their own bad judgement, is something that unfortunately no amount of love can overcome. I personally know the heartbreak that can bring and the toll it takes on everyone who loves them. (((((HUGS))))) and know that you and your family are in my prayers.Debbiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16449564619872452771noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2283658887503348180.post-13943919456172345382017-11-15T09:30:48.630-08:002017-11-15T09:30:48.630-08:00Hi SJ :) Big hugs to you my friend!Hi SJ :) Big hugs to you my friend!Debbiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16449564619872452771noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2283658887503348180.post-37900727071278840292017-11-15T09:30:03.303-08:002017-11-15T09:30:03.303-08:00Hi Penny, that is how I try to live my life. On t...Hi Penny, that is how I try to live my life. On the bad days, I do try to remember that there are better days to come and that I really am blessed in so many ways. This disease, along with others, can be a royal pain to live with (literally), but it is not fatal, and for that I am very grateful!Debbiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16449564619872452771noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2283658887503348180.post-65453081656643338132017-11-15T09:27:34.246-08:002017-11-15T09:27:34.246-08:00Thank you Meg and you are right. :) Some of my fr...Thank you Meg and you are right. :) Some of my friends have been through unimaginable abuse and yet they choose to break that cycle and be amazing parents to their own children.Debbiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16449564619872452771noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2283658887503348180.post-25626457108852079882017-11-15T08:13:31.651-08:002017-11-15T08:13:31.651-08:00Well said.And absolutely what I needed this mornin...Well said.And absolutely what I needed this morning.<br />SJAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2283658887503348180.post-21074760514687260032017-11-15T06:31:17.804-08:002017-11-15T06:31:17.804-08:00I enjoyed this post. It has such a ring of truth ...I enjoyed this post. It has such a ring of truth to it, because---it IS true. None of us have the perfect life we wish we had. At least here on earth, we never will. It is very easy for me (and I've succumbed over the years at times) to look at others' lives and feel they have it easier than I do. Sometimes, I still think that's true, because we have made choices that bring a lot of chaos into our lives. But, when we take the time to reflect, we would not make any other choice! It has been a roller coaster to bring 8 children into our lives, who all have had a rocky start, who all have had at least some exposure to drugs and alcohol while in the womb, who all struggle in some way! The day to day living is hard, and has lasted many, many years. The choices some of them have made are heartbreaking. I'm sure I still have heart break ahead, as life continues. It's hard to pour your life and heart into someone who jumps off the deep end...such a loss of hopes and dreams. Then, you add in the outside influences--and the stress and chaos some people and situations cause, health issues, etc. and....wow, just wow!!! For me, the only way I have coped is by strengthening my relationship with my Heavenly Father--the only one who is big enough to handle it all. He has blessed me with a wonderful husband, supportive family members (there again though--some are, and some aren't), and always enough material things and mental fortitude to get through the hard things. Life is a process. I decided a long time ago that I did not want to miss the joy of my life hoping and wishing for a different life. I just want to try my best, and hopefully, make a difference. I think it's all any of us can do.Beckyathomehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11105835394158145451noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2283658887503348180.post-37922997815540807272017-11-15T06:10:43.141-08:002017-11-15T06:10:43.141-08:00I agree with Meg; never let Fibro be your identity...I agree with Meg; never let Fibro be your identity. I am a nurse and have had many patient with different diseases, including Fibro. It's amazing how some 'become' their disease and others just 'happen' to have that disease. I think it makes a big difference in the 'normalcy' of their lives. I'm sure it can be discouraging when you have your really bad days, but just remember there are better days ahead, too. ((hugs))Little Penpenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01374048900216199298noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2283658887503348180.post-42900355469932933542017-11-15T01:37:04.433-08:002017-11-15T01:37:04.433-08:00There's a lot of wisdom in your post, Debbie. ...There's a lot of wisdom in your post, Debbie. I think pretty well everyone has their challenges and battles, in one form or another. That shapes us but I don't think it has to define us necessarily. Meg:)Meghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11573371198907761962noreply@blogger.com